Do you have that one person in your life that just loves to strip up drama? I know I do. A simple conversation can quickly turn into enough drama fo’ yo momma and if you’re not careful before you know it you’re up to your neck in it with them. Drama is nothing new but the good news is the Bible gives us plenty of advice that can save us a lot of stress and heartache in the long run. And while the truth is we can never completely eliminate drama from our lives we can nip it in the bud fast by following four simple biblical principles.
CUT TIES AND SAY YOUR GOODBYE’S
The best advice I found was in Proverbs 14:7 that reads “Stay away from foolish people; they have nothing to teach you.” Sounds simple enough right? If we notice the company we keep is bringing a lot of stress to the table, it may be in our best interest to cut ties altogether. Over the years, I’ve had quite a few friends that I had to part ways with for this reason. Was it hard? Of course, it was at first, but I also knew that after much prayer and consideration it was for the best. Looking back, I don’t regret it at all.
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE
While cutting ties with friends may be easier what if it’s your family? Sure, you may be able to limit your time, but in most cases, you really can’t just cut off your family. You can, however, control whether or not you partake in those stir pot conversations. This is where 2 Timothy 2:23 comes in, “Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels.” During the day I work in an office, and anyone who’s ever worked in an office environment knows they breed drama like mosquitoes in the bayou. One second you can be discussing the upcoming company picnic and the next thing you know you’re talking about Debra’s latest snafu at the water cooler. A good way to handle these situations is to exit the conversation altogether politely. For me, I use my work as my scapegoat, after all, that is what I’m getting paid for anyway, right?
PEACEMAKERS MAKE THE WORLD GO ‘ROUND
While we may not be able to prevent those awkward conversations from popping up, we can control how much and what we contribute to them. Instead, of feeding into the drama why no try to be a peacemaker who politely steers it in a new direction? After all, this is what Jesus calls us to do in Matthew 5:9 when He said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.” I don’t know about you but I kind of like this title. One tactic I’ve found helpful is to first sympathize with the person, so you don’t come across as being awkward or rude then follow up by offering an alternative point of view. You could say, “Maybe, he/she meant it this way or that?” or “I get your point, the best thing we can do is just pray for them.”
SILENCE IS DEAFENING
Maybe, you’re not a pro as the power of persuasion that’s okay because if all else fails as a clever little bunny once put it, “If ya don’t have nuttin’ nice to say, then don’t say nuttin’ at all.” Hey, I gave my best impression there. When worst comes to worst and rubber meets the road take the age old advice of Proverbs 11:12, “Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent.” You’ve got it; silence may be the second best policy to honesty. You’d be surprised as the derailment of gossip I’ve caused just from a tiny dose of awkward silence. Believe me, they’ll take the hint, and after they figure out you’re not willing to participate, will most likely drop it altogether.
© Lena Wright 6/28/17